Thursday 30 July 2009

Rupster says "About Ignorance Is A Bliss"

IGNORANCE IS A BLISS...

Some people just say that they would tell it off on your face rather than doing it in any other options. Probably they forgot at that particular emoness moment of their very own strong standing.

But Rupster does not bother at all because as humans, we all bound to change one day or rather. You had so much to say but Rupster choose to remain silent for not making things worst. You choose to judge it all by yourself without consulting or even asking a single word on what was happening.

Family has always been a very HUGE and BIG priority throughout Rupster's 22 years of life. Friends always came second and they always knew how important the family was for Rupster. Rupster was there for every single joy full and sorrow events that was happening in the family.

WHERE WHERE YOU??? *thinks*

There were always something you had to say about not being there. Everyone just accepted it but deep down only they know what is in their heart.We've always been tolerating with all that for all this years.

TODAY when Rupster does that and is away just for a event, you come up with one whole big DRAMA in which Rupster remembers very well you saying once that "I would never want to create a whole lot of DRAMA and rather open my mouth and voice it out". Wonder where did that all go?

You say all our SECRETS are safe and tight in your hands?? Think back and Rupster is very sure that some of them are no longer a SECRET. FAMILY is a FAMILY and a SECRET would always remain a SECRET no matter who we are!

They say its INDIVIDUAL rights...we spoke we shared and that was between just the 2 BUT than 1 day it become PUBLIC...Its so hurting but non on us said anything too... We can tell you go ahead give and say what ever you want when we come to you but kindly PLEASE keep it within you and yourself. That is why they call it a SECRET.

Rupster in no one to speak about individual rights but just reminding you how much we trusted you bout certain things and you had to betray them. Yet still we never voiced it out because we assumed it accidentally was revealed but than more and more was beginning to get out and that's the day the TRUST was reducing.To loose TRUST to someone named FAMILY is very difficult because at the end of the day we only have each other. If you are losing it and lost it its going to be a very difficult situation.

So what the whole big issue about the new so called "man friend". Just to remind you, you've done so much more than what any of us in the family have done through out your whole teen years. Yes we never said it is wrong and though it could have been wrong non of us made it as an issue. Mind you Rupster never got close to any of those you have done. Again its not wrong but this is the time Rupster is getting the opputunities. So let her feel it and learn it and probably regret it and take it as a lesson for future. You don't expect everyone to go through what you have gone through and install in them that whatever you faced in life everyone would face it.

Its not that YOU actually came out and announced to the entire family bout who ever was your so called "man friend" right? Or maybe we just wanted to make sure the choice we made was right to carry on with the next stage. Or maybe non of any of us actually came up to the family and announced it because they were not ready for the next step ! We all turned to friends when the whole issue of "man friend" came up. So why do Rupster have to come up and do it. Rupster would do it 1 day but the day has just not reached. Its not that Rupster is comparing herself to the rest but Rupster thinks theres enough of other things that she has said and done. So why would this one small thing create such a huge BUZZ to you Rupster would never understand. To remind you, Rupster stresses out again there are family members who knows about it but it stays at the cousin level and yet to reach the elder generation because its way to early.

I too need my space. So please just give me the space i need. The whole man issue is just a buzz in the cyber space and the among the friends. Fine if you know about. But just keep it there. And that is all that Rupster is asking for. When the time comes than it would be revealed, till than its my way of leading life. If Rupster does not learn it now when else would it be happen.

Yes we were always there for each other to shed tears and laugh out loud together. But somethings are meant to be shared with different people.

To be frank, Rupster has NEVER got to that extend of what you have gone through. You explored it all by yourself while we were to afraid to explore them. Go ahead its not WRONG. You've been around a few years more than Rupster has been around in this world. We grew up and did most shits together as family.

You asked why did Rupster choose friends to be around when the new "man friend" came in? Well for your information, Rupster had consulted much much elder family memebers far ahead before it all happend. Or probably you just did not realise how close Rupster is with the other part of the family.

Rupster thinks, its come to a point of her life that she should start leading it by herself rather than being said what should and should not be done. Go ahead with your so called surveillance job that you want to do. Just do it and just keep the outcome to yourself *there's still TRUST*. You want clarification come ask directly rather coming up with your own conclusion. In other words please just do not JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER.

Though Rupster can get wrong in judging things, but she also can know what is right and wrong. Friends would always be around. They come and they go. They may have what ever issues in life. They could get me and put me in deep shit also. But, At the end of the day its Rupster who chooses what she wants. We learn from all those bitter sweet experiences.Rupster knows her friends as well as how she knows her family. So its up to her what she chooses at the end of the day. No one has the rights to say what kind of friends they could turn out to be.

I dont mean to hurt you like how you literally did it to me but somethings just needs to be cleared up.Dont think Rupster's SILANCE means she is SURRENDERING up to you. Never!!! You claim to know me "well enough" so you should know what would happen if Rupster was to open up and again this is a NO THREAT!!! Just a saying...

JUST STOP JUDGING FROM WHAT YOU SEE ON THE SURFACE. Get clarifications before you conclude. Dont think you can judge a person well enough just by what they behave and do. Dont forget like you judge others there are tonnes of people judging you as well and it could not always turn out to be a positive judgment.

At the end of the day we are a FAMILY. You want to talk come and talk. They way you did it was very wrong and HURTFUL but since you did it that way,Rupster replies you that way.

5 comments:

nat said...

very emotional blog.....

The Modern Woman said...

Okay girl, lets hope the air is a little calmer for me to make my point.

1. Your friends are idiots *Not all*. Drunk? Sex? Babies? Trips with random people? Go for mother teresa's bday if you wish but the friend you chose to blow us off for, I will never comprehend. You are who your friends are and clearly you seem to choose those that need you. Life will seem to mean something when you're needed. Problem is, with friends like that... how will you ever be inspired to succeed?

2. Regarding point 1. They may not be the best influence on you but it seems like they are on the path to standing on their own two feet. Degrees, Cars and Partners. Will the day come that you have spent so much time and effort on them that you will be left behind as they all move forward to an independent life like all adults do?

3. The day you do something on your own. Decide to realise you are no longer 18 and capable of 'just having fun'... 'experiencing life'... instead you're 22 and should already be independent. In these 22 years, what have you accomplished on your own without parental funding? Knowing this, are you making all efforts to help out and succeed in your degree? Will you one day work or still need someone to fund you? Will this 'manfriend' help you in this path to success or no? Thats what you need to think about at 22.

4. When you start to get your life on a path.Hit the target.The rupini that has become the best she can be...you won't need drama, gossip, creepy buddies to feel relevant in life. Look for pals that lift you up instead. Not in terms of fun fun fun but academically, socially and being happy at heart. You're 22 for god sakes, stop 'secrets'...general drama surrounding you...adults have no such stuff... you're proud of what you do, if something needs to be kept a 'secret' you're not sure of yourself.

Sounds like I'm the biggest asscrack on earth. This will either cause you to think or make you angry and well, keep doing what you are doing. Girl, think... me or your pals? who knows what they are talking about? I speaking out of experience...at 22, I had a balance of hardwork and fun...I am where I am today because of my parents, sister and choice of friends. You need to get your life in track. Make something of it. Be independent. Think of your future. You should be financially independent by now. I was at 18. You should be getting your degree already and preparing to support your parents instead. Buy a car. Save for a house. Marry. Do you see why I need to be a total idiot to get you to see that?

You already feel deep hate for me. Do I care? Nope. If it all makes a difference and pushes you to be better than 'Taking care of shop' as everyone keeps saying, it is worth it. If you need to talk, please run it by akka. She'll tell you if I'm right. Haih, good luck lor. Semester starts soon. I am here if needed.

Geetha Vithalingam said...

Dear Prem,

I'm so sorry for wat u'll hear from me, but I think i have to tell u this ;

1) choosing frens are always based on his/her own ability. I cant say ur frens are bad neither can u, how bad or worse they can be is their own self build of characteristics "their nature".

2)Prem , you make me think of wat frens shud be, and how i should choose them. I would like to say this, if everyone make up mind of their own to CHOOSE frens instead of accepting the nature of their frens , then there would be a world of FRIENDS WAR .... that is the only war that haven't erupt yet, pls dun pull a trigger for it.

3) I truly understand your concern, really am, but instead of condemning of what type of frens circle rupster has, i think its wise if you would expalin to her of wat the future would be "as in the type of event and situation" that rupster would face.

WHAT I MEAN HERE IS = i like the part u explain on what she should think to build her future "house,car,assets"
- BUT -
I DON'T AGREE wit you on the part that she shouldn't depend on parental fund. "this is for her parents to decide - not u"

4) I know its time to be independent - but let her finish what ever she is perusing - its just around the corner - soon she will come to ask ur guidance for the next step = EXAMPLE - about working "how to start to work and how to choose and blend into the working environment"
but now i doubt whether this would happen - i really dun want to see both of u go on like this - sincerely form a person u both known.

p/s : i spoke with a humble heart , meant no harm nor emotion heart burn - but with this simple advice from what i have learn so far - i share it to both of u & and never want this emotion outbreak to prolong. There is more to life - make it a point to enjoy it.

Rupster said...

secret are meant to be shared too n i do share them but sad to say i CHOOSE no u!!! coz i've seriously learnt my lesson from u.

my parents have sat down with us n spoke to us and we know were are we leading in life. so what if u were independent at that age? i dont freaking care coz i just dont care. I know what i do and everyone in the house also knows.

Ur up bringing n our is completely different. so y would you want to compare? We would lead our way and u lead your way..

You are no one i say it out clearly NO ONE to judge who am i surrounded with. I never ever spoke bout the ppl u were surrounded wit..just bcoz u noe who they are and what they are to a certain degree,that does not mean u judge them based on what you see in which i beleive u see pictures and come up with ur own dame assumptions. And what was it again bout me goin out with random people??? see thats what i meant dont JUDGE before knowing the TRUTH...

i've been way too quite all the while and dont think im being quite coz im on the wrong. If u just plan to go on...by all means go ahead...but trust me you r spoiling something that is really precocious though u think its for the better!

premmy said...

Geetha makes sense, doesn't mean friends make you behave the way you do. it is a choice to live your life the way you want.

Sure, since you've been so hardworking, so determined... I guess I was wrong. I must be the lazy, uninspired one. Your parents are fantastic people. Stop blaming the them, us, the world and stand on your own two feet. You're 22 for god sakes. Do something that will keep you fulfilled, happy, heartfelt. That is all I am saying. Is it so hard for you to understand?

I am done with this. Just think about it. I have no reason to need all the attack. I'm going to leave this with and hope it gets you thinking. No more ok. Just work hard, all will be well. Stop playing around with your studies. Stop being so comfortable with having people to support you always. Realise that money is not always free flowing. You can not depend on people forever. Hmph. I'm done.